It seems that the deck has been stacked against women when it comes to sex. For hundreds of years women were not given control of their sexual life and it wasn’t until the sexual revolution of the 60s that this taboo subject came to the forefront. But one of the biggest ways in which women have gotten the raw end of the deal is when it comes to the orgasm.
It’s just not as simple for women to figure out the way to get an orgasm in the same way that men do. After all, they just have to go up and down and bam! Here they come.
For women it’s a little more complicated. Although we have the power to have multiple orgasms in one session, not all of us know how to unlock that power. And many women, in fact, have never even experienced an orgasm.
If you are one of those frustrated women, or if you simply would like to experience more orgasms in general, here are a few tips that will help you out!
Become in tune to you your body
You need to have a great mind and body connection. Allow yourself the freedom to relax and enjoy. Don’t stress out and don’t limit the possibilities of pleasure. Don’t assume that sex is over and don’t fret about taking too long.
You need to be comfortable with yourself and with your partner. If he can’t be patient with you and help you experience your pleasure, then consider going solo!
Try doing Kegels
Strong kegel muscles are a crucial component for having an orgasm. The muscles that surround your vaginal canal, the ones that help you hold in your urine, are an important part of your orgasm.
You can work them out any time and any place for more satisfying sex! Flex your muscles as if you were holding your pee (but make sure you don’t have to pee) and release them. Do so about 20 times several times a day.
Don’t Underestimate the importance of Foreplay
Foreplay is key for sex for women. Men can get it on super quick, but it doesn’t work that way for women. Getting in the right mood makes your body get ready for an orgasm. Additionally, clirotal stimulation from oral sex is sometimes the easiest way for women to actually have an orgasm.
If you become slowly aroused, your arousal time actually lasts longer. So, even if you don’t get off during oral sex, it can help you stay in the mood long enough to achieve the big o.
Choose your Position Right
If you want to have an orgasm, mitionary style is probably not going to cute it. It’s almost impossible, because your clitoris can’t be stimulated through that type of penetration. The best positions are to either be in doggy style or reverse cowgirls, because the area will be stroked naturally.
It’s also important that you are including other sensations as well. So, your partner needs to know that playing with your breasts, sucking on your nipples, stroking or scratching at you back and getting your ears in on the action will help keep you aroused and send you over the edge. If you stimulate several parts of the body at the same time, your body will never now exactly what to expect and you will be having a lot of different reactions that can end up in experiencing that big O, maybe more than once!
Communicate with Your Partner
Having an orgasm is important for a woman’s sexual satisfaction. We venture to guess that for most men, it’s also important that his partner has an orgasm as well. They will want to bring you as much pleasure as you bring them and additionally, they will want to have the bragging rights that come with making you scream out for them. So, don’t underestimate the importance for both of you and be sure to communicate openly about your needs, likes and dislikes. If you don’t feel comfortable speaking about it, then maybe do it through text or e-mail. But the truth is, that it takes two to make what goes on in the bedroom something incredible!
So, what are you waiting for? Go get to work!