Themselves! One of the best decisions that I ever made in my life was to explore my own body before ever getting involved intimately with someone else. Two of the main things that I learned were how to love my body and how I like to be pleasured. If someone has not explored their own body, they should not be having sex with someone else. If you are not aware of what you do and don’t like how do you expect them to be able to know? In exploring your body you need to also learn how to love it as well.
None of us are perfect. We all have things that we don’t like or feel as though we need to work on. Yet, we should not let that stop us from enjoying ourselves. I know I won’t. I am not going to go into sex worrying if my partner thinks my thighs are too big or if they can see my stretch marks. I’m sure you get what I am saying.
I cannot count the amount of times that I have heard women talking about their sex lives and hearing some of the things that they were saying made me cringe. Here are some of the things that I have heard that just blows my mind.
“I have never had an orgasm”
“I think I had an orgasm, but I don’t know what a real orgasm feels like”
“I don’t masturbate when I am in a relationship”
“I don’t masturbate at all”
“I let him do what he needs to do, and then when he falls asleep I will masturbate to reach my orgasm”
“I will only have sex in complete darkness, because I am self-conscious about my body”
I could list more, but I will stop there. It just really saddens me to hear women express these things. This just shows me more and more that women still have a long way to go when it comes to being comfortable exploring sex and sexuality. I began exploring at a very early age, but luckily it is never too late to start.
I addressed this post to women, because sadly many people including most women still see sex through the eyes men. If this continues women will always get the short end of the stick when it comes to sex.